I was asked to contribute a small piece on resilience and thought in passing how essential resilience now is to anyone setting off on a new career path.  Although always in the back of my mind I am concerned that resilience can morph in to sheer bloody mindedness; not knowing when to stop doing the same thing in the hope of success and take a different approach?
When do you know you are showing resilience in difficult circumstances and when do you know you are just hanging on hoping things will improve?  Knowing the difference is a fine line that can only be discerned by self awareness and trust in someone who knows where the pitfalls might be; someone who can see impartially.  We all suffer from the inability to see the wood for the trees from time to time. read more…

I was reminded this week in very painful circumstance how it is human nature to judge ourselves by our motives and others by their actions.
If we can try, with great difficulty sometimes, to wonder why we have received the reaction we have and to consider how our behaviour might have been read by others we can begin to understand what their motives are and perhaps judge a little more kindly. read more…

Many people live their lives in a form of reverse. They reverse, like a car into their jobs, into their relationships and only stop if they bump into something. They do not have clear goals, and so they accept, albeit grudgingly at times, whatever is thrown at them.

They take the education that is suggested to them, they take the job offered to them when they are making their way from position to position, job to job. read more…